Making connections that stand the wear and tear of life


It’s when we share who we are – our hopes and fears, dreams and vulnerabilities – that real emotional connections are made. Just talking about what we do is like reading a billboard on a wall. We can’t see what’s behind. But let’s not forget that this is a two-way process. It also takes listening … Read more

Seasonal gifts of friendship


Like mycelium, enduring friendship is formed by a myriad of different connections rarely seen on the surface. Our knowledge of each other is not just a matter of facts and dates. It’s formed with shared experience, emotions and exploration, often touching places that words cannot reach. Therefore seasonal displays of the ‘fruit’ are simply that … Read more

What is our hope?


“Do not depend on the hope of results … In the end, it is the reality of personal relationship that saves everything.” These are the profound words of wisdom from Thomas Merton to his friend, the peace campaigner Jim Forest, in Letter to a Young Activist in 1966. For those who want to linger here … Read more

Still standing – a forward-looking reflection


The valley has taken a battering over the last few days. High winds and sudden torrential rain interspersed with bursts of late summer sunlight. And a dusting of fallen leaves. Blackberries in various states of ripening. Some even on the same stem. It has unsettled us all. And this adding to the months of an … Read more

‘Slowness in human relations’


‘Slowness in human relations.’ It comes from a passage written by the Norwegian philosopher Guttorm Fløistad quoted by Vincenzo Di Nicola in the Aeon article: Slow Thought: a manifesto. The only thing for certain is that everything changes. The rate of change increases. If you want to hang on, you better speed up. That is … Read more



Our relationship with others – the space between us – starts with our relationship with ourselves. If we ignore or find nothing of value within, then guess what happens beyond our skin. Eventually. Perhaps that’s the nature of the soul.