Many people, me included, were particularly struck by the last paragraph of Stephen St Amant’s blog – Filling the jar – that I quoted yesterday:
Mourning the loss of all that we will never do is perhaps painful, but it’s necessary. If we don’t contend with that loss, it will continually get in the way of the things we can do.
It made me realise that we cannot properly ‘lay to rest’ what we have not fully honoured.
And to name and respect it as something that has been important to us does require emotional engagement.
Mourning involves the whole of us, not just our heads, at least in the moment. Because all of us needs to be involved in letting go, otherwise it is still there.
So I started a list…